I wrote an article a while back and decided to be strategic to get noticed. For added punch, I included my age. Hah, I said, all the way to the bank. Kinsey proved that long before most of you were born. Do they think their parents found them under a cabbage leaf? Or do they think people revert to nuns and monks when they turn forty, all knowledge of sexual matters magically erased from their consciousness? I know there are some aging virgins out there. We are creatures programmed to procreate and ensure the survival of the species. They only way we can do that is by having sex. In fact, he or she has probably has had more sex, with more variety than you have had in your young, inexperienced life.
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If you are drinking your morning coffee while reading this, then perhaps this article should come with a warning. There are going to be phrases that we tend not to discuss much in public such as vaginal dryness, loss of libido and erectile dysfunction. However, they are a natural part of life, and if we want to continue to be active sexual people well into middle age and beyond, then we have to acknowledge and then address them, because turning the trials and tribulations of middle-age sex into the joy of sex is not difficult. Sex is important to all of us, regardless of age. Not only is it excellent for getting the blood pumping and putting a youthful spring in your step, it has a number of other benefits too, such as reducing stress, strengthening your immune system, boosting self-esteem, and relieving depression. The famous manual, The Joy of Sex , still has some salient advice for middle- aged and older people even though it was written nearly 50 years ago. Well, we can pump up a flat tyre, add some lubricating oil, and still be having sexual enjoyment with no partner. Our sexual needs and levels evolve and change over the years, and the particular issues that might arise from menopause, for example, do not mean we should give up on it. We just need to learn to adapt. Generally women are very misinformed about what they should be expecting and are very quick to blame themselves.
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And for women in particular, sex drive can really fall off a cliff as they approach the menopause, and beyond. A new study has found that women have less sex and derive less pleasure from sex as they age — and there are a number of reasons that could be behind it. The findings are based on a study of 4, women with a median age of 64, who answered questions about their sex lives. Over time, sexually active women were reporting that they were having sex less frequently and finding it more uncomfortable. Some women said that overwhelming family responsibilities as a reason for not seeking sexual gratification. Many women said that problems in their romantic relationships, the logistics of organising sex, and the ways aging affected their self-image and self-confidence usually caused a low libido. Additional sexual education for [healthcare practitioners] is required to facilitate this process.
T he ups and downs of female sex drives are rarely discussed, nevermind celebrated by powerful figures. In just 24 hours, nearly women of all ages responded to our call. Others vehemently disagreed, insisting that their sex lives have only improved with age. Everyone was very, very forthcoming:. Women in their 70s Women in their 60s Women in their 50s Women in their 40s Women in their 30s. Zero interest in locating a sex partner is very liberating. Sex with a person can be complicated and is hard work and, in my experience, rarely worth the energy.